Fear, comes in the way of everything. Where as, Confidence comes in handy with everything.
Fear puts DOUBTS in your head. Let’s give the example of a job interview, you really want this job. Fear will make you doubt yourself.
“What if I don’t get it?”
The fear of REJECTION. Confidence doesn’t do doubt, nope, Confidence screams:
“I will get this job, if you don’t pick me you are missing out.”
You guessed it Confidence got you that job.
Fear will tell you NOT to leave your corporate job to start your own business because if you do it’s a massive risk; the Fear of FAILURE. Confidence will leave that job behind, learn from it and then work its damn ASS off. Confidence will take RISKS. And EMBRACE those failures and then get up again and again turning them into a SUCCESS.
Fear does come in different forms, we all have them, even those individuals you think are SUPER HUMAN. I’ve learnt to break them down in my head and create a solution for each of my Fears. Sometimes I write it down, because you don’t always want to discuss your deepest Fears with people around you. Of course, I’m only human some Fears you just don’t have a solution for and no-one has the answers for them, that’s where our two other friends- FAITH and HOPE come into play.
I guess what I’m trying to say is if you don’t try for that job you really want, if you don’t start what you really want to do and if you don’t do what, put simply, makes you happy because of our bad friend Fear, you are just going to be left thinking “What if?” Then you are just living in the Fear of the UNKNOWN. I can’t think of anything worse.
Ah. Really hope this doesn’t come across as being a preachy kind of post. Just wanted to share a few things I’ve learnt about these two friends of mine over the years.
I JUST WANTED TO ADD THE BELOW:
I wrote this post a few days ago but today I went to see my surgeon, I ended up telling her my Fears, my Fears that I didn’t have an answer for or that no-one had the answers for. I cried. I saw her eyes well up. She then reassured me that Fear was a REAL THING it’s all about VISUALISATION and hope, I always talk about the art of VISUALISATION (will post something soon on this too). I knew she was right. Sometimes you just have to embrace your Fear, challenge it and then conquer it.
Putting it into practise is difficult but it’s not impossible.